Intentional Weddings
(Also Recommitment Ceremonies,
Divorce or Relationship Change Rituals, etc)
What
we're doing
We call it 'Intentional Weddings'. It means a wedding where the promises made
are made with a great deal of thought. Where every word is carefully chosen for
what it brings to the meaning of the promises made. It's a process where we
help people make wedding vows that help the relationship survive and grow.
Our
history with this work
We have been doing the weddings since 1990, and the Mandala Enterprises(tm)
mentoring since mid 1999.
The
process
The process involves a series of meetings. Usually between 5 and 6. We've done
it in as few as 4 twice, and it was very uncomfortable for everyone. It goes
much smoother and easier on everyone involved if it can be split up into more
meetings. After each meeting, there's homework, usually something that takes no
more than an hour. The work itself involves us asking the couple a lengthy
series of questions about what your intentions are, and how you want to place
that into the wedding. There are also questions about the symbology of anything
else you want in the wedding. And questions about how you're going to handle
the troubles that all married people face. What commitments will you make that
will enable you to get beyond these troubles? It's part creative process and
part relationship mentoring. It's closely related to our Mandala
Enterprises(tm) relationship coaching.
The
cost
Our wedding work is very closely related to our coaching work. There will be 6
or more coaching/planning sessions, usually a final editing session (the
parties to be married are not required to be present for that), and then the
'day of'. Sessions are billed at the same rate as the coaching work, and cover
some of the same issues. This includes editing sessions. The 'day of' charge is
usually $250. Additional expenses may apply for extra expenses incurred on our
part for lodging or travel beyond 30 minutes’ drive from our home (these
details will be worked out in our initial session).
After
the wedding
After the wedding, we'll make ourselves available as coaches, if you need us.
Either right after or whenever you need us.
Ownership
of the text
After the wedding, copyright is owned jointly by you and us. After all, your
agreements are what made up the work, we provided the glue. We retain rights to
distribution for promotional purposes, and we reserve the rights to quote from
your wedding in our other work. You retain all other rights. If someone who
sees your wedding wants to reproduce it, they must get permission from you and
from us.
Legal
Matters
Should you wish to formalize your wedding with the State, we are legally
empowered to do so. Both
Akien* and Dawn were Ordained as Ministers through the
*(NOTE: As of this
writing,
Some
of the weddings we have performed
Here are a couple of the best weddings and ceremonies we have created over the
years:
Will and
Rachel
Alan and Kristen
Jim and Christy
Dawn and Akien Recommit.htm
MFG and BB RelationshipChangeRitual.htm
Mandala
Enterprises supports all forms of committed relationship
©2005, Dawn Davidson and Akien MacIain.
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